What happened to please & thank you?
Published on January 13, 2008 By TheSnowbear In Life Journals
Yesterday for lunch I wanted something warm and simple. Red lobster has a great soup & salad for under $7.00. Perfect for what I had in mind.

I was seated, and given my menu, and was told my waiter would be here soon. I settled down, started reading my book, and relaxed. The couple just across from me was being waited on for their order. They were 2 women, and upset that one of the "specials" wasn't able to be changed. they acted like it was the waiters fault. Finally, they agreed on their order, and the waiter turned to me. I smiled, placed my order, ( I read the menu, lol) and was asked a few questions.. what type of soup, dressing etc. I ordered an appetizer just because I love their stuffed mushrooms.

The waiter left and I relaxed. The women were speaking in a loud voice, how upset they were that he took my order before turning theirs in. Believe me when I say I placed my order in under 2 minutes. Probably less than that.

The table behind the women were empty, then there were 2 men, upset that there was too much ice in their ice tea. This same waiter, had just placed their plates in front of them, took the glass, and replaced it w/ a glass with a very small amount of ice, and then apologized. The man grumbled, and started eating.

The waiter then brought drinks.. and those biscuits. They were warm, and wonderful. One of the women stated in a very loud voice as he was placing my tea on my table, "You didn't bring my cream! I want cream!" Then her table mate stated, it's on the saucer.. She then stated, well I didn't see it.. He should have put it in a more obvious place.

I smiled at the waiter and he left.

I couldn't believe it. Too much ice? Not looking at the saucer? Where did these people come from? They seemed to be looking for a reason to complain.

Then a woman and a small boy came and was seated at the empty table. She complained there wasn't a booth. The seater... (for want of a better word) apologized, and the woman replied nasty.. well, I guess it will do.

She pulled her chair out, hitting the gentleman at the next table. He stood, griped, and moved so she could move to the chair ( a 4 seat table)back, and she moved to the other chair.

She started gripping that the waiter wasn't there yet. ( She'd been there under 2 minutes)

The waiter appeared, filled glasses, and took the beverage and apetizer order from the woman. She complained again about the table. He apologized and left.

The table of the 2 women were gripping that they didn't have their main dish yet. They were still eating their salad for pete's sake. The men were gripping about the crab legs. I guess they had never been served them at a restaurant, they thought the meat would be removed for them.

The waiter appeared, with the main courses. He served the 2 women first, and then placed my salad in front of me. He turned back to the women, both of whom gripping. Wanting extra butter, for their potatos, and more cream for their coffee.

Never did anyone at those table every say please, thank you.. kiss my a@@ anything.

He asked if there was anything I needed, I smiled, and said no.. and continued reading while starting to eat.

He was stopped by the two men, asking why wasn't the meat removed. That they had to pay for the shells... they wanted the manager.

The woman and small boy were served their salad and beverage. She complained there wasn't enough dressing. "I want more!" He immediately retrieved more for her.

When he brought it to her, she didn't even acknowledge it, just grabbed it and poured it on her salad.

He brought out my main entree, just as I had finished my salad.

Between all this he continually filled glasses, checked if there was anything needed. Always he was demanded to bring things. Never requested, never a smile, never an acknowledgement.

I enjoyed my meal, relaxed,and finished. He had already given the other 2 tables their bills, and was asking if i needed anything. I asked for a small take out box, and it was brought with my ticket. He again asked if anything else. I handed him my card, and he left.

THe 2 women left a .50 tip due to him not bringing their requests fast, and having to wait for him. They explained this very loudly.

The 2 men where finishing up.. and paid their bill. Declined to leave any tip due to them having to pay for non edible items.

I shook my head, and couldn't believe them. The waiter appeared and brought my receiptl. He called me by my first name, and thanked me for my patronage.

He had spoken to the other 2 tables very similar, kindness,and patience as much a part of him as the sun raising in the morning.

Neither of the two tables had even said a simple thank you , it was good, nothing. Only complaints.

I left a good tip, feeling wonderful about the service. I've been to restaurants where I was lucky to get refills on the water, and a tip was automatically added.

I left a good word with the manager about how great a waiter he had. He thanked me, and stated he would pass it on..

I still shake my head at the rudeness, and lack of common courtesy.

Yes, it is a restaurant, but would asking nicely hurt? Gripping about the shells of crab legs? Oh good grief.

People complain that service is going by the way side. What about giving compliments? What about please, thank you... My granddaughter, 3, is required to say those.

Before we start complaining that service is a thing about the past, let's take a look at ourselves. There is nothing wrong with requesting things, but why not do it with courtesy?

I've had bad experience w/ wait staff... who hasn't? But why take it out on someone who had nothing to do with it except be in the same industry.

thanks for stopping by, don't forget to say hi!





Comments
on Jan 13, 2008

{ Irony / Sarcasm }

I don't f---in' know!

{ end Irony / Sarcasm }

 

on Jan 13, 2008
I hate people like that. They make we want to throw my plate of food at them.

I've worked in service industries most of my working time, and what you say is exactly the truth - service is dying because common courtesy and decency are dead. What's the motivation for the average, entry-level worker to give good service when it's rewarded like what you've explained here?

We are an embarrassment to our grandparents.
on Jan 13, 2008
Unbelievable.

Like it's the waiter's fault that the menu isn't to the customer's liking! Too much ice in your iced tea - well it ain't called a tea with ice - get over it! I suppose these people go to McDonalds and complain to the manager that they are still hungry as their Big Mac isn't big enough to fill their tum-tums.

What I'd like to see is when a judge sentences someone to "community service" that they have to work as a waiter in a restaurant with customers like that. Lose your cool and you get another week tacked on. HaHa.

Well, at least you were nice to the waiter. Oh, and Hi!
on Jan 13, 2008
It's a fact of life, I've decided. Like the certainty of death and taxes: that no matter what -come Hell, Heaven, or high water- there's always gonna be somebody who's just gotta bitch.
on Jan 13, 2008

That's why I prefer working with animals...at least if they're rude it's to be expected.  If anyone treated me like that...I don't believe I would be responsible for my actions.  I'm patient and can take a fair amount of crap...but all that?  Nah...I'd probably freak out. 

Glad I'm not like that...jeez...I say thank you every time I get a refill and these people yell because they can't see what's on their plate?  *sigh*

~Zoo

on Jan 13, 2008
That waiter had the patience of Job! OMG!!! I agree with Sancho, why some workers probably don't even bother, although that's no excuse, but those people deserved an accidental spillage of cold water in their laps!! [and I'm sure he wouldn't have heard the end of it, but imagine the satisfaction!]
on Jan 13, 2008
I have worked in the restaurant industry all my life. This is nothing new. However, it has been my experience that for every one of these jerks there are 5 more really nice ones.
They do travel in packs though. Certain times bring out more of this type of behavior. For instance, early bird specials and Sunday brunch. I know I am stereo typing this time of service, but it becomes a stereotype for a reason.

Adapt and adjust, that's the motto. Sorry, you had to sit through it and hear the whole conversation. At least the waiter got to walk away. LOL

on Jan 13, 2008
I totally agree. I do know that the next time I go there, I'm asking for him... I was told a little kindness goes a long way.. what happened to manners?

Oh well, I'm going practice what I preach, and be sure to remember how not to be.
on Jan 13, 2008
In Australia, common courtesies are still practiced by most, although I've noticed this is becoming less and less. I think if I'd been in your shoes, I wouldn't have been able to contain myself. I think I would have given the two women a good blast, but out of hearing range of the waiter, who sounds like he has the patience of Buddha.

I'm going practice what I preach, and be sure to remember how not to be

And there is a lesson for us all in this. 'Please' and 'Thank you' don't cost anything but can make someone else's day.
on Jan 14, 2008
I think some people just have the gift of complaint. That's all they do. I'm sure this is not an isolated incident with these people. They take it with them.

My sons worked as waiters and they would tell me the stories of very rude people. Some people are just hard to please. Maybe they do this so they can justify NOT leaving a decent tip.

I'm glad you went out of your way to compliment and encourage this young man and it's something we should all be striving to do. It's a hard world out there and a little encouragement goes a long way.

Thanks for the reminder.

on Jan 14, 2008

That's why I prefer working with animals...

I was going to call them animals, but why insult the animals?

on Jan 14, 2008
Must be the transition to JU2. Double Post
on Jan 14, 2008
Those people deserve to eat all the boogers that the servers put on their plate in the kitchen.   
on Jan 14, 2008
After working in retail for more than 11 years, it has given me a cynical view of the general public. I believe that everyone should work retail at least one year in their life to learn humility and respect towards others.

I'm sure the server appreciated your kindness!